Collapsing the Space Between You and What You Want

Some weeks ago, I was listening to some YouTuber wax on some esoteric concept or the other, and he made an off handed comment on his way to making another more salient point…about how sometimes, we don’t get the things we seek because we want them too much.

That is the paradox of desire. The more desperate you are for a thing, the more you push it away. It is almost like the universe conspires to keep you in a state of desire, so you can never really have the thing you want.

But desire is important, wanting is important. It gives us something to energetically attract. So, it is almost like you have to want it, but not too much. Because wanting it too much, can keep you stuck in the beginning stages of the process, and keep you from taking the necessary steps to get what you want.

You start worrying about getting it perfect, about what others would think, hoping for the glory of already achieving it, instead of doing the work you need to do to get it.

Other times, we build up the thing we want in our minds. We make it a big deal, we put it on a pedestal, and imagine that there is a lot that we have to do, to get ourselves there. That this is some big mountain to climb. And sometimes, it might really be.

But this way of thinking, puts a lot of space between where we are now and the thing that we want. And this (imagined) chasm can be so wide, that we never take the proper steps to get what we want.

But if we collapse the space between, if we hold the things we want as important enough to take concrete steps towards or to seize opportunities as they arise, but not so big and scary that they freeze us in inaction, forever in a state of getting ready, then we will stand a chance of getting what we want, especially the things that have evaded us for so long.

If there is a long standing goal that you have been unable to accomplish, it is perhaps worth it to ask yourself, if you have put too much space between you and this thing. It is possible, that you have imagined this thing as being bigger than it really is. It is possible, that in your desire to get it perfect - because it is so big, you remain stuck doing nothing. It is possible, that in putting this thing on a pedestal, you have imagined this long and arduous journey to get there, whereas, there is a more direct and easier path just waiting to be discovered.

In collapsing the space between us and what we want, we are able to view things in a more objective light, and take the appropriate action, moving resolutely, but holding things loosely and adapting to the results as they come.