Staying Sane in an Insane World

Staying Sane in an Insane World

The world is going to hell in a hand basket.

At least that is what it seems like.

Everyday there is something else going wrong. In the last week, war broke out in Ukraine, and South African artist and icon Riky Rick committed suicide. It is not like war isn’t going on everyday somewhere in the world. And it’s not like people don’t commit suicide every day. But at this time, as a result of media obsession and celebrity, these events stand out and weigh heavy on our collective consciousness.

It was a dark week. In the past few weeks, I’ve had people close to me admit suicidal ideation or attempt. I know what that feels like, I’ve been there before. And as I write all of this now, I’m realising just how heavy the dark cloud has been the past few days.

And I don’t know what to say or how to help.

I generally try not to feel…too much.

I’m not a robot I know, and I think I am actually a sensitive and emotional person at the core. But I’ve never felt comfortable with it, with feeling. Emotions are powerful, the true definition of compelling. But they are often inaccurate, or counter productive. They are an inescapable part of the human experience. Between the ego, our history, our trauma, our fears and desires, they are always there, pushing and pulling us.

We live through the entire gamut of emotion – joy, pain, sadness, elation, desire, fear, jealousy, love, anger, impatience, anxiety. And if we do not learn to live with and master them, they can rule us. They are strong drives and urges. And with a world and society that seems to exist to prey on and manipulate those drives, we are stuck in a web, a matrix of impulses and results.

Which is why I’ve always like stoicism as a philosophy, as a practice. To help train ourselves and our minds. To be able to embrace emotion and yet see it clearly. To see the world as much as possible, as it truly is, and to remain even keel through it all. Never giving in completely, unconsciously to extreme happiness or extreme pain.

The master does not block himself from feeling, nor does he allow himself to be swept up in the passion incessantly. He lets it in, delves in it fully, and teases out the useful information from the noise, and then takes the right action. Emotions are not his master, but another tool in the work belt of life.

Too often we are the opposite, unable to truly judge our emotions, understand what the root issues are and deal with them. More often that not, we just feel and react. And so we stay stuck in loops. We are triggered and we react. Over and over again, to the same stuff without change.

And it remains a wild world out there. The pandemic rages on, climate anxiety is at peak levels, late capitalism is groaning and straining against its limits, and people are realising that they can’t keep on sacrificing themselves to the system. Our problems are real, but not insurmountable.

To deal with things appropriately, we would need to be our own eyes of the storm in the chaos that is the world. Which means to cultivate an inner citadel. To build an oasis of peace. To come to terms with ourselves and still the storms within. Only then do we have a hope of acting correctly.

We have to do the work.

We have to learn heal our traumas.

We have to learn to escape from the spaces that hurt us, and cultivate the ones that nurture us.

We have to stay focused.

We have to get clear and get to know and accept who we are, and what we want.

We have to take care of ourselves.

And if we need help, we have to speak up and ask for it.

And if we can help, then we have to reach out and give it.

We have to build what we want and create anew.

We have to remember that it can’t always be night. Even though it may be dark today, the sun will shine again.

That is how we stay sane. That is how we prevail.

Exploring Relaxed Productivity

Exploring Relaxed Productivity

Lately, I’ve been thinking about the concept of “Relaxed Productivity”. The past few weeks have been a bit manic. I’ve been juggling multiple projects, chasing new business, creating new products and producing more content than I usually do. It has been a bit crazy.

So last week, I wanted to try a different tact. Or at least, I could afford to try. See, I always have the experienced of being almost at the edge of overwhelm. My fingers are always in a lot of different projects, I’m always doing a lot of work. But that comes with its cost. Eventually things devolve. The work gets a bit sloppy, projects are rushed and I slip into extreme fatigue. Something has to give. I spent most of the other week in a sleep deprived state. I got stuff done and done very well, but it left me exhausted.

In 2018 or so I came across the concept of ‘Working to Live’ and it started to change the way i approached work. The thing as a freelancer, one man band, mercenary, is that it is very easy to get overwhelmed with work. There are always requests coming your way, projects to be finished, projects that were finished coming back with more stuff or edits or changes. There is always more work.

You can also be incentivised to take on more work. Because the more you work, the more you earn. At the same time, it can be difficult to charge as high as is needed, because otherwise then you don’t close the deal, and sometimes you need the cashflow however small so you take the hit. Plus, people almost never pay when they say they will, projects get stuck in limbo or fall off completely. And when they do pay, they want things yesterday. So you get stuck in a loop, taking a lot of work to make the money you desire and then bumping up against time and energy constraints. You end up working ridiculous hours and crashing and burning repeatedly.

Is there another way?

Is what I’ve been wondering.

I have come across local creatives talking about how they are fully booked for months. So I’d imagine they are simply spending the next few months only working on what’s already on their plate. That seems nice, like they already have enough in the bank, or charged high enough to be able to maintain such a schedule. Also it means that they have enough time to really dig into the project and get things done to a high standard.

Must be nice, I want in also.

To Work to Live means to schedule ones life around life as much as possible, instead of work. It means scheduling the things that are important first – like rest, like exercise, and eating, or chores, and then scheduling work around that. Now sure, this is a very privileged place to be in. But if you already have control of your time as an entrepreneur or freelancer then this is a worthy goal to strive for.

What principles would have to be in place?

Reduce your footprint

If your bills and needs are high, then you will always need to be generating income. And if you generate income from your work/labour, then you are going to have to work a lot. Reducing your footprint and reconsidering your lifestyle can give you the space you need to position yourself better and work more sustainably.

Plan at least a week ahead

To have a more relaxed and productive workflow, you need to have clarity over your time, resources and tasks and set things up accordingly. You would need to plan your life at least a week a time and front load it with the right amount of work. Know what needs to be done each week and really be honest about how much time things will take. Any other tasks that come up would have to compete against the already assigned task or move to the next week.

That means probably no rush projects, if you can help it.

Strive to be as effective as possible

If you only have limited time to work, then you have to make sure you are working on the most important things. Prioritise the important things and the things that will give the biggest results. Then you can get around to all the other stuff. Make the time you spend working count.

Be more valuable

To enjoy more relaxed productivity, you are probably going to need to increase your income. And you can do that by increasing your value, improving your skills, and selling your value to the clients who can afford it. You are going to raise those prices to attract and service the right market.

Innovate your business model

To be able to strive to a more relaxed level of productivity, you would need to work differently. Make your business or setup less dependent on you and built upon systems that can run without you. That could mean selling products, hiring people, or leveraging digital platforms. Position yourself for scalable exponential growth and that could earn you your freedom

Enjoy the time off

It can be easy to fall back into old patterns of toxic hustle culture. And there’s a time and place for that. Sometimes you do have to go all out and work like crazy, but when we in relaxed mode, we want to allow ourselves to actually enjoy the time off. For a workaholics like me, it can be hard to turn the brain off and just do something else. But invest the time in yourself, in your experiences, in your relationships and funny enough, it might just make you even better at your work.

How to Level Up

How to Level Up

It is something that we all strive for. We want to improve, be better. We would love to radically improve our lot if we could. That is why we chase the products, the programs, the latest book or fad. We seek the insights that would change the game.

Sometimes we succeed. Sometimes we come across a gem, an idea, a method that does truly change the game, that enables us to transcend previous limitations. Many times, we are left dissatisfied, with yet more broken promises and dashed dreams.

Over the past few weeks, I have noticed a marked difference in how I operate. I have felt clearer, more focused, a bit more balanced. I mean it is not perfect, and I still dip in energy and vibration. But all in all, I am able to cycle right back. With this has come new ideas, new ways of engagement and opportunities to pursue.

So I sat down one evening and thought to myself, wait, why do I feel so good? And how can I capture this state or at least the recipe for it so that when I needed it, I could go back to it. Have I possibly found the secret? Is this is actually the way? Do I have an answer for the question – How to break through to the next level?

Perhaps. I think I do, I mean it’s still early to tell. But so far the results look promising. So this is me sharing my epiphany, my recipe. And we’ll see if time is kind to it.

In my opinion, and experience, to level up, to break through to a new level of acting and being, you have to take a three pronged approach – you need an exposure to greatness, you need to maintain and raise your vibration and you need to do the work.

Expose yourself to greatness

Things started to click for me in an interesting way, when I stumbled on a few classes on SkillShare and videos on YouTube. I was introduced to a couple of content creators who are very successful, and also shared their mindset and methods as to how they are able to get so much done and be productive.

And just watching these pieces of content showed me that yes, it was possible to be creatively productive and prolific. That many people had developed hacks, and tactics and put in a great deal of work to make sure that their workflows moved as smoothly as possible, and made it possible for great quality output.

It opened up something in my mind, and so I had a close look, I took some classes, made some notes and implemented them. And that loop has been great – being exposed to what success in the field looks like and learning to mirror that.

We are social creatures. We are heavily influenced by the people we engage with and the content we connect with. They do not just bombard our conscious mind with information but also work on the subconscious to tilt us towards certain things and away from others. Monkey see, Monkey do, is a real thing.

If we expose ourselves to greatness, which means to be able to observe and learn from the best, or at least from those who embody that which we want to be, we are able to learn deeply not just the mechanics of things, but also the nuances, the attitudes, the execution, that feed us all the information we need, consciously and unconsciously to get there ourselves.

And more importantly, they provide us with key proof, that the thing we seek is attainable.

Raise your vibration

Weeks prior to coming to this recipe that I’m sharing now, I realised that I had fallen out of using the law of attraction. Not that I think that I can magically manifest whatever I want out of thin air.

But there is great power in recognising that your mind and your emotional states affect your mood, your energy, what you feel is possible and in turn the action you take, the energy you put behind it and eventually the results you receive.

I typically tend to default towards some level of anxiety. My mental state is usually drawn towards the reality I don’t want to create. How things could go wrong or not work out. So I have started to deliberately hold on to the energy I want, and when it dips, to work to maintain it and pull it back up.

I imagine things working out, I visualise what I desire. It is important to actively hold an expansive and powerful energy within. Rise up above the noise, and see good things happening.

Connect with the things that inspire and uplift you. Pray, meditate, consume high vibration content. In so doing, you will draw in opportunities, connections, audience, open doors, creativity, collaboration, and so forth.

This is will in no way replace doing the work. But it will put you in the right frame of mind to approach it effectively and supercharge your efforts.

Do the work

There’s no substitute for it. You have to do the work.

Do what you know you must do. Take right action. Take the right steps. Because nothing will happen if you don’t move, if you don’t push. Be prepared, be focused, be unrelenting in the pursuit of that which you seek.

It is in the application, in the practical, in the work that the lessons we learn from greatness really sink in. It is in the doing that new insights are gained, that we move from knowing the path to walking it. Here, the learnings become embedded in our bones, in our routines, in our very selves.

But I don’t just mean work work. Although that is a part of it. I also mean The Work. The important stuff. the thing that makes your heart sing. The one that deeply fulfils you. The work that exercises your true gifts, stimulates your true interest.

We might not all be fortunate to do what we are passionate about and make money from it. Many of us have to make money in different ways. But it is important to make space for passion in our lives. To hold space for purpose.

We are all here for more than just to eat, sleep, consume, work and die. We are here to breathe, to love, to dance, to laugh, to cry, to feel, to be. To claim our little speck of existence. To be fully human. And a big part of that is giving our gift, giving our message. Adding our true selves to the tapestry of human existence.

For me, that’s this blog, and all the other spaces I make content. It is my privilege to plumb the depths of the human experiences as it presents itself to me and try to make some sense of it. As I teach, I learn and I grow. It is as much for me as it is for you reading this right now.

And that’s what i believe we all have to find. For each of us, the work is different. Some want to save the planet, we should all try to save the planet. For others, the work is family and relationships. For others still, it is invention. For some, it is to entertain, for others it is to help. Whatever it is. We have to find that work, and do it.

It is in the expression of our full and highest selves that we find deep fulfilment and purpose.

In doing so, in holding these three principles in mind, we can make sure we are receiving the right stimuli, sharpening our minds, habits and perceptions. We are able to hold a strong center, keeping our energies focused and rising to the occasion. We are disciplined in action, and steadily levelling up.

Blue Pill-Red Pill or Awakening or Unplugging from the Matrix

My boy Kay and I talk a lot about ‘The System’. Admittedly it sounds very conspiracy theoristy, but I will admit to being a bit of a conspiracy theorist. So ‘The System’ works exactly like the Matrix. I am going to assume you have watched the movie ‘The Matrix’ in its entirety, or at least the first one. If you haven’t, leave this blog immediately and NEVER come back! I can’t deal with people like you *insert disgusted face here*

Anyway, brief recap. The Matrix is a movie about a post apocalyptic world where humans are enslaved by machines (of their own creation) who used humans as energy cells. To keep the humans subservient, they are all plugged into a computer generated reality that feels, tastes and looks completely real. So humans really spend their lives living in this system, living this illusion of reality, having jobs, spouses, houses, etc. But none of it is real; it is literarily all in their heads.

In comes Morpheus (an unplugged individual) who subsequently unplugs Neo who then goes on to be the saviour of humanity, eventually giving up his life to end the war between the humans and the machines. A lot happens in between though, so please watch the movie if you haven’t.

Red pill wakes you up

There is a real ‘Matrix’ though. It is a system we are born into. I could go in deep and discuss various illusions, concepts of reality, states of consciousness and so on and so forth. But that is a worm hole on its own. I will however distil my understanding into a simple line, ‘You are either awake or you are asleep’

You are born into ‘The System’ and there are guides present to lead you and teach you how to exist within its framework. The guides are your parents, your teachers, your religious centres, your communities, your fellow human beings. They teach you how to live, how to treat other people. You inherit a set of beliefs, reactions, preconceived notions, ideas, priorities and ambitions. Your sense of purpose is derived from this ‘System’. All this is good and fine. There is nothing wrong with that (or with anything for that matter).

The truth here is that everything, every idea, every rule comes from outside you. That is fine, because shortly after we are born we come into the awareness of being. We believe the idea that we are distinct from the other beings around us. There are finite boundaries and space between our corporeal bodies. We are us, they are them. This is the apparent reality. Depending on how oppressive ‘The System’ is, you learn to discredit your true nature and rely on external cues and factors to live and to relate to life around you.

Promise of pleasure and threats of pain are used to condition our behaviours and inclination from a very young age. We learn to please our parents and people around us by acting in ways that are favourable to them. We seek approval from teachers in school, from our peers and friends. It is a natural desire to want approval, love and acceptance. By making all these things available on condition, we are moulded and shaped. Events and observations, all of which are transient and quickly pass by leave indelible marks in our psyche. We become a bundle of conditioned reflexes reacting to situations rather than responding. We make assumptions, we make judgements, and we classify things as right and wrong. We hold ideologies, theologies and doctrines.

We live out frantic lives trying to protect ourselves from outside threats and pain. We cling on to the structures we built around us for our security. We look outside ourselves for completion, for true love, for success, for validation and so on. We live, act, behave and we are largely oblivious to why we do what we do. We are not self aware, we are asleep.

In the sense of what I just described, I was asleep for 21 years of my life. Actually the day I turned 21, a series of events began that eventually jarred me so hard I began to wake up. By, the end of 2009, I began to open ‘my eyes’ for the first time. In 2010, I was awake and asking questions, in 2011, I am finding answers and slowly getting out of bed.

this WILL wake you up!

What does it mean to be awake. It means being conscious, it means being aware. Self- awareness is the first and fundamental key. Being awake is being able to stand outside of yourself, out of everything you believe to be true and begin to systematically question everything. And I do mean everything. I remember being told I read too many books, I read too many ‘dangerous’ books. There are some things I shouldn’t know. There are some things I shouldn’t question. I shouldn’t question God. I shouldn’t question authority. I should accept things in faith. I should believe. I remember wondering why most people are scared to ask questions. Are they too scared of the answers they will find? Are they scared that the answer will cause them to lose everything they have worked so hard to gain? The structures they built their identity, lifestyle, heck even their sanity upon.

I asked and asked and asked. I rebelled, I ran, I hid, I asked some more. I kept asking until the foundations broke and the walls caved in and everything shifted and changed. I kept asking while I fell intermittently into depression and darkness. I kept asking when all I felt was terror in the pit of my stomach. I kept asking on nights I felt alone and misunderstood. I kept asking.

I am finding answers. Beautiful answers.

Being awake is understanding, KNOWING. It is connection with everything that exists. It is knowing the unshakeable truth, the core truth. It is understanding how the pieces fit together. It is disconnection from the ego and knowing of the highest self. Being awake is God-consciousness. When you are awake, you understand the laws that govern the universe. You can see the ‘code’ in the system. You can manipulate it, create new worlds. You can move at dizzying speeds, bend reality, and perform ‘impossible feats’. You are awakened to your true potential, to the idea of infinite growth. The chains are broken, the ropes are untied. You let go of all the hurt and pain that shackle and govern your actions. You know who you truly are, and you know why you are truly here. You possess the peace that surpasses understanding. You stay in a state of bliss.

You can be free. Wake up.

Before red pill......After red pill

The beauty of serendipity in the pursuit of destiny

The beauty of serendipity in the pursuit of destiny

I’ve been having strange experiences, or maybe they are not strange per se, just that I have a greater sensitivity to these things now. It starts with a thought. It is always a thought. Thoughts start a series of happenings that result in the manifestation of its physical equivalent. So, in this case, the thought is this, there is a truth out there that cohesively holds all of the world, seen and unseen together. Something that weaves its way through all life, all existence, all thought. A way to understand the true nature of life, the universe and all that pervades and is us.

 So that’s the thought. And then the lessons begin to present themselves, blogs, books, conversations with friends, new models of perceptions. (They say when the student is ready, the teacher appears). Consciousness expands and I can glimpse back and forth in time, at once gripped and freed by the necessary paradox of life. It’s meaning, and it’s meaninglessness, the gains and the loss. Coming to the understanding that everything has its place and fulfils its role. So I am progressively freed from circumstance and situation and simply live. In the present. Possessing, releasing, more and more immersed in the ebb and flow of life. Glimpses of destiny, the sparking of a tiny flame that continues to burn and gain traction, spreading from its point of origin and eventually engulfing me, until I am one with it, and there is no self, only expression, reconnection with the divine. At this point, I am happy, happy to be alive, to breathe, to be here, to be now. There are problems, but they don’t look like problems, just challenges, slight inconveniences. In fact, they are outright opportunities, new open doors to unexpected experiences, interruptions that open the way for serendipity to occur.

 So, such is life, at its zenith, in its fullness. But out here in the journey to your destiny, how do you find your way? It is said that once a decision has been taken or once a desire has been concretely expressed, the universe conspires to give it to you. This is where serendipity comes into play. How do you get from where you are to where you want to go? Especially when you dream of your destination, but cannot see a clear path. There are a multitude of possibilities, many roads to take and this can paralyse you. But once you lock on to your goals, things start to happen…hunches, chance meetings, inspired ideas. You need to be aware and be ready to receive. Be ready to move, to change. Understand that the road to your dream is not just a road to your treasure, it is a process that must change you, refine you. Who you become is far more valuable and important than what you get. Your soul is the most precious thing in the whole of eternity and existence.

 We would not have control on where this path will take us, but life is an adventure. In fact, It must be lived as The Great Adventure. Embrace change, embrace chance. Do all you can in the present, all you should. Listen to your heart, and let it guide you, and protect you and teach you. But still, rule it.

 The links between the nodes of our path are beautiful, enjoy each one. Many occurrences we see as setbacks are part of this journey, this process to teach us lessons, to push us forward, to give us what is best for us. Joseph went from his home to the bottom of a well, to slavery in a foreign country, to prison and then to his dream, prime minister in Egypt. The path to your dream will have many detours, but it leads to the same place. Each point is necessary in making sure you get there.

 In conclusion, embrace your passion, your purpose, your destiny. Follow the omens, they will lead you to your goal, embrace chance, and luck and enjoy the journey